Have you encountered a specific delusion on your dating adventures? For example, posting a group photo so that no one knows who you are in the photo. Most men can guess based on the fact that you refused to be honest and identify yourself with a solo picture.
A recent online conversation tackled the question specifically about delusions men experience when dating women. Here is what the men confessed.
1. No Sparks Flying
A significant percentage of women believe that sparks must fly on a first date for there to be a second. Between Disney and romantic comedy ridiculousness, there’s a deception being programmed since birth. It’s so much a thing that Taylor Swift has a song, “When Sparks Fly.” So, I don’t think that delusion is going anywhere.
2. Having a List of Demands
Are you an online dater? Then, you’ve browsed the online dating bios, and some common trends exist. For example, numerous women feel the need to list their “must-haves” in a partner instead of selling themselves as a potential partner with passions, beliefs, and a list of interests or hobbies.
3. Speaking in Clichés
Another online dating bio trend is using clichés, which many perceive as boring and unoriginal. It begins to read like any comment section on the internet; everyone posts the same things as if they’re independent thoughts or jokes.
Some top clichés found in online dating bios include:
- Fluent in sarcasm.
- Looking for a partner in crime.
- Dating me is like investing in the stock market: high risk, high reward.
- If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.
4. “I Want a Man Who’s a Provider”
Speaking of things, men confess they swipe left immediately if a woman states they are looking for a provider. Do you mean like a sugar daddy? Men who are serious about finding love find this a grand delusion because they are looking for a partner, not another dependent.
5. Having Height Requirements
Many women won’t date a man who is shorter than she is, while others insist on a man being at least six feet tall. Men find that to be delusional and shallow in the dating world, the same way a woman would be if a man told her she was fatter than his weight requirements.
There’s a voiced concern about how body shaming is a double standard. Women make fun of or disqualify dating guys over baldness, height, and manhood size, and there isn’t the same uproar as there would be if flipped.
6. Expectations of Being Spoiled
My husband treats me like an absolute queen, but I wasn’t wearing the crown during the initial dating phase. It took a while. I wore my best friend ballcap before he crowned me, and I think that’s a more natural flow of how that should look.
However, many women want the five-star dining and wining experience with trips and vacations from the jump. I agree with many men that that sounds delusional to me.
7. Matched Messaging
Another common misconception in the online dating world is that men receive as many matches and messages as women do using those apps. The truth is, they don’t, and according to the men going out on dates with women who have this misconception, they aren’t receiving even a fraction of the interactions women are.
8. Listing Income Requirements
Are women okay with men listing income requirements in their dating bios? I’m seriously asking the question because I don’t know the answer. However, numerous men admit to it being delusional for women to list it in their bios and expect men not to question their motives.
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Elizabeth Ervin is the owner of Sober Healing. She is a freelance writer passionate about opioid recovery and has celebrated breaking free since 09-27-2013. She advocates for mental health awareness and encourages others to embrace healing, recovery, and Jesus.