Are you confused or curious about what men want? Then, we got you covered (ish), right? Of course, not all men can be stereotyped as a monolith. However, after someone surveyed men online, asking what they desire, these are the top-voted confessions.
1. Time Alone
One man said, “Loyalty, time alone, and feeling appreciated,” before several others chimed in to confirm the time alone portion of the statement. Then, finally, someone clarified, “Time alone, but without holding it against us, internalizing it as their failure to be desired.”
2. Sleep
Sleep was the number-two-voted response. One admitted, “Yeah. Haven’t had an excellent night’s sleep in a decade.” Another combined the top answers to clarify, “Related to other’s answers, not to sacrifice sleep to get that time left alone. I get up at least an hour before I need to because there’s no other time to do things I want to do for myself.”
3. Affection
As many men noted they want the same things as women, one specified, “Attention. It’s crazy how a compliment can make my entire month for me.”
Another suggested, “Men should be more encouraged to show affection and compliment each other more. There’s also nothing wrong with hugging each other now and then. I wish there weren’t this weird idea that being affectionate towards each other is anti-masculine.”
4. To Love and Be Loved
Many men in the thread confessed the natural desire “To love and be loved.” One man added, “I want to be wanted. I want to be the little spoon. I want to be the reason someone is excited to start their day, the reason someone smiles. I want to be vulnerable. I want to be loved.
5. A Back and Neck Massage
After several men confessed to wanting back and neck massages, one volunteered, “Brother, you might not know this, but you need a forearm massage too.” Another added, “Forearms are quite sensitive and are full of pressure points for stress-related stuff.”
6. Companionship and Deep Emotional Connection
“Companionship and a deep emotional connection, even if they don’t know how to ask for it,” one confessed. Another admitted, “One of the best things I ever did for myself in this regard was going to therapy.
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7. See My Impact
One man shared, “I could die a happy man if I saw my life’s impact on others.” A second asked, “You ever volunteered? It’s enriching and usually a killer way to meet other people. By the end of a year, you probably wouldn’t even be able to doubt your impact on others; you’ll have seen it first-hand.”
8. Debt Free
Many men in the thread agreed with the notion of being debt free. One confirmed, “Been there for five years. It’s worth the struggle and lives up to the hype.”
9. A Hug
“A hug. Just a hug,” one lamented. “People don’t realize how nice getting hugged is until you suddenly realize you’ve gone nine years without one.” A second shared, “One of the best things since I had kids. My allotted hug count has greatly increased. I guess this will only last until they are teens, so make every – one count now.”
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10. Reciprocation
Finally, one shared, “To receive the same love and loyalty I give. I want you to make me feel special the same way I try to make you feel special. So please don’t leave me hanging and question where I stand in your life.”
This thread inspired this post.
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