15 Unspoken Rules To Help You Maintain Healthy Friendships

Are you here for the unspoken rules of friendship so that you know and understand how to be a good friend? Then, we got you covered. Recently, someone asked a popular online community for examples of said rules. Here is how they responded.

1. Don’t Jump To Conclusions

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Jumping to conclusions is never a good thing. One user clarifies, “Don’t make passive-aggressive comments or jump to conclusions. You’re an adult. Choose a time to talk calmly and be willing to listen instead of diving straight into character assassination.”

2. Don’t Make Friends With Your Buddy’s Enemies

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This isn’t to say you can’t have other friends. One explains, “Yes. You don’t try to befriend your friend’s peer that she loathes, regardless of how popular those peers are. You’ll never get to get into their inner circle. Your original friend will drop you. No, your friend doesn’t own you. But she can choose who she feels safe with.”

3. Tell People When Something Is Off

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I will never forget when I walked around all day with my shorts inside out, and nobody said anything. There was writing and a tag that made it obvious. It sucks that more people don’t help others in embarrassing situations. Knowing today’s world, someone probably recorded it, posted it, and roasted me maliciously like everybody else.

A forum member agrees that if someone has something visibly wrong with them that is fixable (spinach in teeth, skirt stuck in drawers, mascara smudge), tell them: friend or a total stranger.

4. Don’t Compete With Friends Over Romantic Interests

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Don’t ever make your friend feel that they are competing with you over the attention of a romantic interest or anything for that matter. A woman laments, “Can we PLEASE stop being in unspoken competitions and support each other?”

5. Give and Take Should Be Reciprocated

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“If you bought me drinks last Friday, I’ve got dinner on Wednesday, you know?” Countless women agree with this sentiment. One even opines how crummy it is to stop fitting the bill for friends you care about but never show you that same care.

6. Don’t Date Your Friends Former Partners

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This should go without saying, but dating your friend’s exes is a significant no-no in the social rules of friendship. Multiple women suggest that if they weren’t a serious item (a couple of dates), it’s OK to ask if you are interested. However, if they were serious, it’s never alright. Others disagree and believe all exes are off-limits.

7. Delayed Replies

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A woman implies that if she hasn’t replied for a couple of days, she probably accidentally saw the message, forgot to reply, didn’t have time, and then forgot to later.

Another explains she’s the type of person that requires “a lot of space.” As a result, she only keeps friends that understand her need for space. I relate to this one so much. My close friends know I love them, but I shut down socially sometimes.

8. Keep Conversations To Yourself Unless Noted It’s OK to Share

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Keeping conversations between you and your friend unless it’s implied that you can share the information is an unspoken rule of solid friendships. Numerous people express disbelief at the betrayal of having their business spread without consent.

9. Don’t Bully Your Friends

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Countless people advise that you shouldn’t make jokes at the expense of your friend to make others laugh. It’s a bullying behavior that too many accept as OK, despite it not feeling good for your friends.

10. If You Cancel, Reschedule Plans

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Canceling plans with friends happens sometimes. However, if you cancel a catch-up with a friend, one notes, “Then you should make an effort to find another date to catch up with them.”

11. Sometimes, You Just Need To Listen

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It’s no secret that many women like to vent issues and bounce ideas off a partner or friend without advice. Sometimes they just want to be heard. So listening and knowing when those times are is prudent.

12. Don’t Be a Yes Person, and Tell Your Friends the Truth

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A good friend is not always going to support everything that you do. Instead, they will keep it real with you and let you know if a bad idea sounds like a terrible decision.

13. Put Your Phone Away and Be Present

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I love this one. If a friend invites you to hang out, “You should put your phone away and be present.” Nothing is worse than asking someone to catch up and then spending the time watching them scroll and text the entire time. “If the person you’re texting can’t handle a simple ‘hey, I’m busy. I’ll text you later,’ that’s an issue.”

14. It’s Always Polite To Invite

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Someone suggests even if you “Know your friend is 100% not going to join something. It’s still polite to invite them.” She clarifies, especially for introverts like herself. “I will 100% not come partying with you, but it feels good to know that you’re thinking about me and still want to do stuff with me.”

15. Keep Kid’s Names Out of Your Mouth Unless It’s Positive

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“Our kids’ names stay out of each other’s mouths unless it’s positive.” One lady explains, being “appalled at how many mom friends don’t know this one.” She elaborates that if a behavior issue significantly impacts each other’s family, then it renders conversation. “But don’t let me find out you’re gossiping about my children.”

Source: Reddit.

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Elizabeth Ervin is the owner of Sober Healing. She is a freelance writer passionate about opioid recovery and has celebrated breaking free since 09-27-2013. She advocates for mental health awareness and encourages others to embrace healing, recovery, and Jesus.