18 Grossly Unattractive Things Women Often Do That Turn off Men Today

Is there something you find grossly unattractive? You’re not alone. After someone asked a men’s online forum what these significant turn-offs were, here are their top-voted honest confessions. Do you agree?

1. Acting Like a Dude

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Despite where we are heading in society regarding gender norms, plenty of men confess they want nothing to do with a woman who acts more like a “Dude.” So if you walk around calling everyone “Bro,” for these men, it might be a “NO!”

2. Staring at Her Phone

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Another grossly unattractive thing women can do to turn a man off is keep their heads buried in their phones. Numerous men admit to going on dates where the woman was glued to her phone. From posting food pics to mindless scrolling, it’s not a good look.

3. Cheating

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It should go without saying that cheating is the ultimate betrayal of trust and is, indeed, grossly unattractive. An unfortunate number of men share experiences with knowing this pain, and it’s devastating.

4. Throwing Tantrums Like a Toddler Instead of Communicating

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No man wants to put up with a woman who can’t communicate her feelings and instead throws tantrums like a toddler. Someone gives the example of being sophisticated one moment, then full-on gangster mumbling rap the next when they hear something like, “Sorry, ma’am, we’re out of coconut milk for your latte.”

5. Constantly Complaining

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Countless individuals agree they don’t like complaining. One man clarifies he can’t handle being around a woman who spends all her time complaining. “I’m not a psychologist, and it is just draining to be around constant negativity.”

6. Lying

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After people suggested lying, one user shared, “Yep! I dated a girl years ago who would lie to people, including her parents, right in front of me for no reason.

She just enjoyed it. I was too naive, though, to think she would do that to me until one of her lies to me was exposed when I brought something up to her mother she had told me a couple of days earlier. Her mother was like what on earth are you talking about, sweetie? After that, I couldn’t trust her, and we broke up a few weeks later.”

7. Not Reciprocating Demands

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“Unreciprocated demands, or demands that she would not agree to,” one man explained. ‘You’re not allowed to talk to other girls on social media’ — okay, so why are you talking to other guys on social media yourself?

The golden rule of thumb in a relationship is if you ever make a demand, it has to be something you would agree with if demanded of you. Nothing is more unattractive than someone who wants control, not a relationship.”

8. Being Rude to Loved Ones and Service

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“Be rude to my friends and loved ones for no reason.” However, many argued about being rude to anyone, period! Others noted being rude to server staff before one said, “Being rude to people not in a position to defend themself. Very uncool!”

9. Trash-Talking Friends

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Several men in the thread agreed that women who talk trash about their friends are seriously unattractive. Some argued that it’s not cut and dry before one said, “Yeah, it all had to come down to how nasty someone is if it’s a joking jab. Fine.

But if they are saying horrible things about someone who’s supposed to be their friend. Huge turn-off. I’d immediately start trying to devise a way to break up.”

10. Wearing Long Fake Fingernails

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One man specified, “Having two-inch-long fake fingernails,” while others agreed that long, fake nails are unattractive to them. Another stated, “They look ugly, and watching them try and work around having them is just awkward to watch. Plus, as personal experience, I’ve never met a woman with those nails that wouldn’t also fall under the heading of high maintenance.”

11. Chewing Tobacco

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“Chewing tobacco,” shared one. “Believe it or not, I’ve seen many women in Florida chewing. Florida can conjure images of beaches and palm trees, but the state’s interior can be a Redneckian hellscape.

I traveled from South Florida to the Tampa area and went through Holopaw. I pulled up to a 7-11 type store and noticed this pretty-looking blonde hanging at the front. I walked by and said hello, but she had to spit dip to clear her mouth before responding. YUCK!”

12. Lacking Empathy

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Many men in the thread found that a lack of empathy, care, or concern for others would be a significant turn-off. One semi-jokingly stated, “This, all this, and especially this part.”

13. Fitting the Karen Stereotypes

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Nobody wanted any part of being with a woman, demonstrating “Karen stereotypes.” One expressed, “I don’t want to be in that kind of relationship. It would be annoying, embarrassing, and lead to a toxic relationship.”

14. Intellectually Non-Curious

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Many men in the thread found being intellectually non-curious unattractive. One noted, “I’m attracted to smarty pants,” while a second shared, “Was dating this girl, was talking about Hiroshima and Nagasaki to a friend, and she asked what kind of sushi that was. She was 28 years old with a bachelor’s degree.”

15. Involved In Any Part of an MLM

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Another thing men noted as being unattractive is being in any part of a multi-level marketing scheme (MLM). One man joked, “But she’s a business owner,” before another replied, “Yeah, total boss babe, I get it….” For those not in the know, MLMs are scamitty scam, scams, scams.

16. Playing Mind Games

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Numerous men believe that women playing mind games are seriously unattractive. Some confess to intentionally failing their “little mind games” to prove their point that “they ain’t chasing you.”

17. Obsessed With Themselves

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Women obsessed with themselves and their appearance are a major turn-off to the men in this forum. So this covers influencers who insist on interrupting life to take pictures and obsessively post about things instead of being present in them.

18. Neglecting Their Children

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Countless men find women who neglect their children for their own needs, or those of men, unattractive. Although, one man notes that postpartum depression is a real thing. So, there is no intentional discrimination there.

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As a woman, I know there are plenty of evident double standards women endure. However, a recent online discussion in a popular men’s forum highlighted many double standards men have encountered. Here is what they confessed to.

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As someone with a substance abuse disorder, overcoming it was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. People can be heartless and, judgmental, and ignorant. They say things like: “If you don’t want to be a drug addict, just quit. It’s that easy. I have no sympathy for them.” Or “I just don’t understand addiction.”

20 Common Sentences That Will Instantly Make People Dislike You

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When you meet new people, what sentence instantly makes you dislike the person? Do I have to pick just one? Just kidding. But seriously. After someone asked an online forum for insight, these were their top-voted phrases.

15 Traits Men Find Super Attractive Aside From Physical Appearance

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What traits in a woman do you find attractive or impressive besides her physical appearance? Men in a popular online forum deliberated to deliver this list of attractive qualities.

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Elizabeth Ervin is the owner of Sober Healing. She is a freelance writer passionate about opioid recovery and has celebrated breaking free since 09-27-2013. She advocates for mental health awareness and encourages others to embrace healing, recovery, and Jesus.